A groundbreaking guide from a leading expert on emotional abuse that reveals how one person’s harmful behavior can ripple through an entire family.From bestselling and internationally recognized expert and therapist Beverly Engel comes Adult Children of Emotionally Abusive Families, the first comprehensive book to explore how emotional abuse doesn’t just affect couples—it shapes entire family systems, often damaging children in ways that last a lifetime. W...

Stop repeating your past, and find lasting healing for the future.Millions of us are desperately trying to rewrite our past by unconsciously repeating it--unknowingly reenacting the traumatic events in our lives in an effort to complete unfinished business or undo what was done to us. These unconscious efforts to undo trauma only bring more pain, more disappointment, and more psychological damage. Reenactments can take the form of self-destructive behavior, unhealt...

**"Extremely informative and comprehensive."—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?The world-renowned therapist and author of the groundbreaking self-help classic, The Emotionally Abused Woman, delves into one of the most destructive and powerful weapons of the abuser: shame. And reveals its most powerful antidote . . .**Does your partner humiliate you, especially in front of others?Is your partner impossible ...

From a leading expert, a guide to changing your anger style and successfully communicating your feelings.Do you act out your anger in destructive or underhanded ways? Or do you suppress your anger and turn other people's abuse and criticism against yourself? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But if it's channeled in negative directions, anger can do real damage to you and your loved ones.In this provocative, healing book, psychotherapist Beverly Engel exp...

This "clear, empathetic self-help book . . . is an excellent choice for readers who come from an abusive past and are struggling to make a brighter future" ( Publishers Weekly).If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a child or adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, it isn't a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abuse but rather a question of how--whether you will become an abuser or con...

Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to know that it wasn’t your fault.In this gentle guide*,* therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame tha...

“A sensible book, full of insight and hope,”* that offers support and guidance in freeing emotionally abused women from the cycle of abuse and establishing new healthy patterns of relating to others.*Booklist• Does your husband or lover constantly criticize you and put his needs before yours?• Do you sometimes wonder if your best friend is truly a friend?• Does your boss try to control your every move?• Does yo...

We are living in a time when baby showers are the most popular kind of party and when TV and movies abound with adorable babies and darling toddlers selling everything from soap to toilet paper. In this "baby-friendly" environment, is it any wonder that more and more people are considering becoming parents?Most people realize, however, that just wanting a baby doesn't mean you are physically, mentally, or emotionally prepared to have one. Nor does the desire to have a baby necessar...

Stop repeating your past, and find lasting healing for the future.Millions of us are desperately trying to rewrite our past by unconsciously repeating it—unknowingly reenacting the traumatic events in our lives in an effort to complete unfinished business or undo what was done to us. These unconscious efforts to undo trauma only bring more pain, more disappointment, and more psychological damage. Reenactments can take the form of self-destructive behavior, unhealth...

Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to know that it wasn’t your fault.In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you...

In this groundbreaking book, Engel helps women confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep them stuck in their Nice Girl act while replacing them with healthier, more empowering ones. CONTENTS PART I. STRONG WOMEN ARENT NICE Chapter 1: The High Price of Being Too Nice: The 7 Types of Nice Girls Chapter 2: How Did We Get So Nice? Chapter 3: The Ten False Beliefs That Set Women Up to Be Used and Abused PART II. FROM FALSE BELIEFS TO EMPOWERING BELIEFS Chapter 4: Stop Putting Others Needs an...

In the second edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, internationally recognized therapist Beverly Engel walks listeners through a proven program designed to help then get to the core of their unhealthy behavior patterns.This book was written specifically for two types of couples—those who mutually abuse each other and those with abusive partners who are willing to honestly look at themselves to and make the necess...